GUIDELINES FOR GROWTH

Waith: “The Guidelines for Growth is the Mission Statement for the Search for Self.

“Our guidance is about bringing balance to the abstract and concrete. We help you to understand the spiritual precepts of your own path ~ how you can apply those precepts and the tools by which you can apply them ~ and how you can analyze what you have done and determine if the precept from the spiritual component was appropriate for you.

Respect Self
Love Self
Respect Others
Love Others
Be of Service to Self
Be of Service to Others
Be Joyful
Be Serious
Be Single of Purpose
Be Unified in Purpose

RESPECT SELF ~

Waith: “Many people will interpret the Guidelines as meaning that you cannot work on anything else except Respect Self since that is the most important component. Oftentimes, people will become stuck within their own growth because they think that they must achieve a certain point of Respecting Self ~ and before they can do anything else, they have to achieve whatever it is that they determine is the level that they will Respect Self, before they can begin to Respect Others.

“This is certainly a way in which many entities behave. However, it can be Self defeating if you think that you must achieve a certain level of Respect of Self in order to have succeeded. Self often imposes upon itself these unreasonable expectations and says, ‘I must achieve this before I can really show that I have grown.’ Well, that is nonsense!

“What does it mean to Respect Self ~ what does it mean to Love Self and how are those two different from each other? Respect can be considered non emotional. Love can be considered emotional.

“Respect is an attitude that one has for Self and the world in which Self exists. Out of Respect comes Love.”

LOVE SELF ~

Waith: “You cannot Respect Others and Love Others to any greater degree than you Respect Self and Love Self. You cannot give to others to any greater degree than what you have within Self.

“What does it mean to Respect Self? What does it mean to Love Self? And how are those two different from each other? Respect can be considered non emotional. Love can be considered emotional.

“Love, as defined on the earth plane, is very emotional. Love tempers Respect. The Respect, in some cases, can be very, very hard, if you will. When someone says that they Respect Self and they will not allow such and such a behavior by others, because after all, they Respect themselves, that can be looked at as almost jaded, as you might call it, on the plane.

“It is the Love of Self that brings in the tempering ~ it softens for there is then the Love of Others.”

RESPECT OTHERS ~

Waith: “It is the Love of Self that brings in the tempering ~ it softens for there is then the Love of Others.

“As someone attempts to Respect Self, will they be hard about it and say, ‘You will learn what it means to Respect Self from my example ~ I will not allow you to do this.’ Rather, a point is reached where the Love says, ‘I understand that this person is working on Respecting Self ~ perhaps my understanding of Self has a greater awareness than this other person and it is up to me to help that person in their path toward Respecting Self.’”

LOVE OTHERS ~

Waith: “It is the Love of Self that brings in the tempering ~ it softens for there is then the Love of Others.

BE OF SERVICE TO SELF ~

Waith: The issue of Service has become a rather one-sided perspective ~ Service, as it would relate to the needs of the person giving the Service, rather than the needs of those for whom the Service is given. It is, however, the first step an entity must take before they can truly begin to understand the requirement to Be of Service to Others.

“You must Be of Service to Self, which then enables you to Be of Service to Others. The only amount of Service that you can give to another is the degree to which you have given to Self. The fine line is drawn between being Selfish and being Selfless ~ which is the issue that we present in this discussion.

“The greatest call that comes from The Universal Consciousness is that of being Selfless ~ not thinking of Self first ~ rather, thinking of others. The ability to not think of Self first while being of Service to Others, requires that you are secure in your own identity of Self and have the ability to give of Self based on the satisfaction of your own needs.”

BE OF SERVICE TO OTHERS ~

Waith: “It is a difficult issue for many entities to give of Self, for they fear they will be taken advantage of. However, that is the journey ~ that is the way in which the understanding comes of your own fine line between being Selfish and Selfless.

“As you feel that you are being abused by another ~ for they take advantage of you ~ you retreat within Self and become Selfish. However, unless you are taken advantage of by another, you will not know where your own fine line is between Being of Service to Others and Being of Service to Self ~ Selfish and Selfless.

“It comes back to the ever present situation of finding your own answers within Self ~not what another would say to you is your line of Service ~ rather, what you feel is your line of Service.

“To find your line, you must stretch yourselves ~ you must place yourself into an arena of Being of Service to Others to the point where you may indeed feel that you are being taken advantage of. Keep pushing yourself to Be of Service to Others until you find that line ~ that point where you say, ‘Enough is enough ~ it is time now for me to retreat into Self to evaluate how much I’ve progressed in my ability to Be of Service to Self.’

“As the tide that comes onto the shore moves forward, it moves back. And it moves forward again and it progresses, and it moves back. This attitude is what you need in your search for bringing greater strength and ability to Be of Service to Others.”

BE JOYFUL ~

Waith: “Sometimes an entity will find their whole life is spent completely in joy filled activities and others will find that their entire life is serious ~ this is part of the path. For those who have taken on a path of complete joy filled or complete serious filled, they are working through extremes.

“The goal is to be balanced, to have an understanding of how the two ~ Joy and Serious ~ come together and that it is important to have both in one’s existence.”

BE SERIOUS ~

“The goal is to be balanced, to have an understanding of how the two ~ Joy and Serious ~ come together and that it is important to have both in one’s existence.”

BE SINGLE OF PURPOSE ~

Waith: “Be Single of Purpose, Be Unified in Purpose ~ there is a difference in those two little words ~ in and of. You are an individual and you have a Purpose ~ it is of you and you alone. Unified in Purpose means that there are others who have the same Purpose ~ they are in it together.

“There are many groupings that come together, supposedly Unified, yet they are not, for their Purpose is not Unified ~ they are not Unified in their Purpose. They may come together from this Single of Purpose and not translate it into a group, being Unified in Purpose.”

BE UNIFIED IN PURPOSE ~

“The formation of any cohesive group on the earth plane ~ as well as in spirit ~ takes work and does not simply happen.”

WAITH’S CLOSING REMARKS

Waith: “There is nothing mystical about it - it is part of the journey and part of the reason that we have the Guidelines for Growth as the Mission of the Search for Self - to ultimately get you back in connection with The Universal Consciousness ~ The Mass Consciousness.

“It is the concrete that must find the path back through Self - the levels of Self that will not give up the information, for any number of reasons, which is part of the Search for Self journey.

“We have just discussed the concept ~ and concepts are wonderful! The application of a concept, the concreteness of it, is the challenge.

“Your question now would be, ‘How do we apply the Guidelines for Growth?’”